Unhealthy People Pleasing
A VERY wise man once said: "I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."I'm a "People Pleaser" by nature. All my parents had to do to discipline me as a child was give me "the look", and I would behave. Whenever I was told someone wasn't happy with me... in any area, I would overcompensate to an extreme trying to make them happy. I have almost ruined my life... and I HAVE ruined my testimony several times when I was trying to make someone happy with me, and proud of me.
I have realized, that when I work hard for a word of praise from someone and it doesn't come, I am allowing myself to feel unsuccessful, and unworthy, (to people that don't even matter!). Then, as a way to "guard" myself from the feeling of failure (again), I tend to "write off" the people that I can't please.
I still struggle with trying "too hard" to make certain people proud of me.. but as my husband graciously reminds me, I don't need to make THEM happy. Don't get me wrong... I do believe it is right to help people as much as you can.. but there is a difference between helping others, and ruining yourself.
We all have our strengths... and unfortunately our weaknesses. (Hey, you have yours too!) No one is perfect- and I'm okay with that.
Being obsessed about pleasing others.. is actually unhealthy. Here's another article you may find helpful if this is one of your weaknesses (click here).
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